Susie Orbach Quotes

No one likes to feel helpless. We find it psychologically unbearable and inside ourselves we may try to make ourselves part author of our misfortune rather than simply the recipient of it. ~ Susie Orbach

Many young girls are constantly consumed by controlling and managing their body image to the extent that they are much more involved in the production of the self than in living. ~ Susie Orbach

I'd like to see much more understanding of emotional issues around hurt, abandonment, disappointment, longing, failure and shame, where they stem from and how they drive people and policies brought into public discourse. ~ Susie Orbach

When they took TV to Fiji they found that after 3 years nearly 12 girls out of 100 were over the toilet bowls with bulimia because they felt inferior. ~ Susie Orbach

Fat people are so rarely included in visual culture that fat is perceived as a blot on the landscape of sleek and slim. ~ Susie Orbach

I wish we could treat our bodies as the place we live from, rather than regard it as a place to be worked on, as though it were a disagreeable old kitchen in need of renovation and update. ~ Susie Orbach

Bodies are becoming our personal mission to tame, extend and perfect. ~ Susie Orbach

If you continually diet, you are putting your body in a quasi-famine situation. It slows your metabolism down and breaks the thermostat. Diets don't work. They don't help you understand why you're eating more than your body wanted in the first place. ~ Susie Orbach

Not that it was Twiggy's fault, but the ubiquity of her image created a sense in young women that to be stylish meant to be skinny, flat-chested with an ingenue face and straight hair. ~ Susie Orbach

Public intellectuals come from a range of areas and use their expertise to comment more widely than just their field. They want to make a contribution to public space, and they stick their necks out to do it. ~ Susie Orbach

Being able to provoke a different point of view to the standard current ideological or political perspective as played out in conventional newspaper or radio reportage is what a public intellectual does. But it's not merely about being oppositional, because that's too negative. ~ Susie Orbach

If I were afraid of wrinkles, I'd probably be hiding in a cupboard, because I have a lot of them. ~ Susie Orbach

I'm a therapist and that fascinates people because they think I carry secrets. ~ Susie Orbach

From a child's point of view, there is rarely a great time for parents to separate, even if there has been a lot of commotion and fighting. ~ Susie Orbach

No one leaves a long-term relationship scot-free or without conflict. ~ Susie Orbach

We know that ever woman wants to be thin. Our images of womanhood are almost synonymous with thinness. ~ Susie Orbach

The insistence that the commercialisation of the body is a fit subject for political discussion and intervention is well overdue. ~ Susie Orbach

Fat is a way of saying no to powerlessness and self-denial. ~ Susie Orbach

A wanted pregnancy as much as a dreaded pregnancy can play differently than all one's previous imaginings. ~ Susie Orbach

There are so many young women who tip over into being a facsimile: they don't really inhabit their lives or their bodies. ~ Susie Orbach

The truth is, we don't have an easy language for emotional life. That's why we have writers. ~ Susie Orbach

There is no such thing as a neutral therapist. ~ Susie Orbach

The parents' job is to be there for their kids, not the other way round. Troubles between parents need to be talked through with friends and not visited on the children. ~ Susie Orbach

'Skinny' is only one body type. ~ Susie Orbach

Dare to be as physically robust and varied as you always were. ~ Susie Orbach

Emotional Literacy means being able to recognise what you are feeling, so that it doesn't interfere with thinking. It becomes another dimension to draw upon when making decisions or encountering situations. Emotional expression by contrast can mean being driven by emotions, so that it isn't possible to think. These two things are often confused, because we are still uncomfortable with the idea of the validity of feelings. ~ Susie Orbach

Celebrity culture is something that pains me. ~ Susie Orbach

For a young woman today, developing femininity successfully requires meeting three basic demands. The first of these is that she must defer to others, the second that she must anticipate and meet the needs of others, and the third, that she must seek self-definition through connection with another. The consequences of these requirements frequently mean that in denying themselves, women are unable to develop an authentic sense of their needs or a feeling of entitlement for their desires. Preoccupied with others' experience and unfamiliar with their own needs, women come to depend on the approval of those to whom they give. The imperative of affiliation, the culture demand that a woman must define herself through association with another, means that many aspects of self are under-developed, producing insecurity and a shaky sense of self. Under the competent carer who gives to the world lives a hungry, deprived and needy little girl who is unsure and ashamed of her desires and wants. ~ Susie Orbach

We accept there's an emotional aspect to life. But we're not very developed in our ways of understanding it. ~ Susie Orbach

Today, 'fat' has become not a description of size but a moral category tainted with criticism and contempt. ~ Susie Orbach

I thought of the analyst Winnicott's observation: 'It is a joy to be hidden but disaster not to be found'. ~ Susie Orbach

You have to calendar time for yourself even if you have no idea what you're going to do with it. ~ Susie Bright

This decree is very serious and we will not allow it to pass unopposed. (on Israel offers 10-month West Bank settlement freeze) ~ Uri Orbach

Susie Lynn, the producer of those segments, goes in and lays all the voices over the video. ~ Mike Judge

RECIPE FOR HAPPINESS
As devised by frantastica:
dvds with Johnny Depp in them
white chocolate chip cookies
peanut m&ms
popcorn
pillows X 17
Method:
put all on sofa and mix till cheerful. ~ Susie Day

It was then that I slipped in the darkness, unable to know if I could be seen.
I made myself small in the darkness, unable to know if I could be seen. I had left for hours every day for eight and a half years as I had left my mother or Ruth and Ray, my brother and sister, and certainly Mr. Harvey, but he, I now saw had never left me. His devotion to me had made me know again and again that I had been beloved. In the warm light of my father's love I had remained Susie Salmon-a girl with my whole life in front of me.
"I thought if I was very quiet I would hear you," he whispered.
"If I was still enough you might come back. ~ Alice Sebold

When life gives you lemons, forget the lemonade. Make a lemon chicken and a rich lemon cheesecake. Blame life for the extra pounds. ~ Susie Smith

When you come home, darling, I shant have your letters, but I shall have yourself, which is more
oh more, and better, than I can even think! I sit here with my little whip, cracking the time away, 'till not an hour is left of it- then you are here! And joy is here
joy now and forevermore! Tis only a few days, Susie, it will soon go away, yet I say, "go now, this very moment, for I need her- I must have her, oh, give her to me!" Sometimes when I do feel so, I think it may be wrong, and that God will punish me by taking you away; for He is very kind to let me write to you, and to give me your sweet letters, but my heart wants more. ~ Emily Dickinson

I am of an age for grief. ~ Susie Steiner

Behind every erotic condemnation there's a burning hypocrite. ~ Susie Bright

Buckley followed the three of them into the kitchen and asked, as he had at least once a day, "Where's Susie?"

They were silent. Samuel looked at Lindsey.

"Buckley," my father called from the adjoining room, "come play Monopoly with me."

My brother had never been invited to play Monopoly. Everyone said he was too young, but this was the magic of Christmas. He rushed into the family room, and my father picked him up and sat him on his lap.

"See this shoe?" my father said.

Buckley nodded his head.

"I want you to listen to everything I say about it, okay?"

"Susie?" my brother asked, somehow connecting the two.

"Yes, I'm going to tell you where Susie is."

I began to cry up in heaven. What else was there for me to do?

"This shoe was the piece Susie played Monopoly with," he said. "I play with the car or sometimes the wheelbarrow. Lindsey plays with the iron, and when you mother plays, she likes the cannon."

"Is that a dog?"

"Yes, that's a Scottie."

"Mine!"

"Okay," my father said. He was patient. He had found a way to explain it. He held his son in his lap, and as he spoke, he felt Buckley's small body on his knee-the very human, very warm, very alive weight of it. It comforted him. "The Scottie will be your piece from now on. Which piece is Susie's again?"

"The shoe?" Buckley asked.

"Right, and I'm the car, ~ Alice Sebold

My first manager, Suzanne DeWalt, saw a play I was in. She was invited by the director Joan Scheckel, who was my first real acting teacher. Joan was also good friends with my friend Susie Landau Finch, who had first encouraged me to consider acting, so that's how I began studying. ~ Gale Harold

The cold rationalism simply covers for raw, wounded emotion. The more driven people are by the mind, the more they feel and further encode their feelings. The thickness of the tarpaulin cover is as the size of the emotion. ~ Dalit Orbach

He had been my almost. My might-have-been.
I was afraid of what I wanted most - His kiss.
Still, I collected kiss stories.
-Susie Salmon ~ Alice Sebold

Merino sheep, Susie told me, are by far the most common breed in Australia - the wool capital of the world - and they have it worst. They are bred to have wrinkled skin, like the shar-pei dog breed, meaning extra surface area of wool per sheep. But near their backsides, those wrinkles serve as breeding grounds for flies and maggots and contribute to a buildup of urine and feces. "So what do the farmers do? They slice big swaths of skin off, using knives or shears, in order to create patches of smooth scar tissue. The process is called 'mulesing.' And they do this, as you can probably guess, without anesthesia or painkillers of any kind," she said with disgust. ~ Jenny Brown

FRANTASTICA: You Know Who says you look fabulous, darlink. ;)

SERAFINA67: ONG Voldemort has been eyeing me up?

FRANTASTICA: Well, you are looking a little bit Slytherin now. Tom Felton will not be able to resist.

SERAFINA67: Eeeee sekrit crush! Why are evil people always the prettiest?

PATCHWORKBOY: MWAHAHAHAHAHA! *twirls moustache evilly* ~ Susie Day

He misses her. He miser her, he misses her, he misses her. ...Seven miserable lonely days of missing someone he never should have been with in the first place, yet wanting her back even so. He wonders if he could overlook her lack of human sympathy and generalized air of bitterness, just so he could have the feeling of being together again. ~ Susie Steiner

I got more and more politically active and just followed the course of feminism and sexual liberation. ~ Susie Bright

Mirrors are dangerous things. They can just as easily tell us what we don't like as what we do. Yet in truth you can't tell anything from a reflection, as a reflection is actually empty. ~ Susie Staplehurst

He would find his Susie,inside his young son. Give that love to the living. ~ Alice Sebold

I seek to be moved, my imagination reborn.
Let me feast on poems that feed my hunger. ~ Susie Clevenger

Tears gather on my cheeks
mimicking the stars diamond
quilting the sky. ~ Susie Clevenger

CALVIN: Hey, I got some mail! It's a Valentine card.
HOBBES: From Susie Derkins!
CALVIN: It says "Please be my Valentine."
HOBBES: You're Susie's Valentine!
CALVIN: I'm not her Valentine just because I got this in the mail, am I? Does the Post Master General know about this?
HOBBES: Calvin and Susie, sitting in a tree-ee! Kay-eye-ess-ess-eye-en-gee!
CALVIN: I don't have the KISS her, do I?! Is that what Valentines do??! Oh, gross!
HOBBES: First comes lo-ove, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage!
CALVIN: This can't be happening! I need a lawyer! She can't make me be her Valentine!
HOBBES: Here she comes! Here comes Susie!
SUSIE: Hi, Calvin.
CALVIN: Get away from me! I'm not your Valentine! Take your card back! Eww! Girls! YECCHH!
SUSIE: That card wasn't for YOU, you Moron. Didn't you read the back of the envelope?
CALVIN: "Calvin, please give this to Hobbes." HOBBES?!
HOBBES: Me? Really? Hot dog! Smooch City, here I come! ~ Bill Watterson

And Mum was all 'don't you two look grownup' which obvs means 'omg slutbags' in the language of Parent. ~ Susie Day

Thinking how she loved the very flesh of her. You got used to that with children, love crashing over you like waves. ~ Susie Steiner

If I ask her tonight she is going to say 'omg what now, bitchlet?" before I even get the words out of my mouth. ~ Susie Day

Yes, yes, yes we say,
without a thought for the day.
Running and fretting to make ends meet
rushing from Susie to Joe and to Pete.
Our lives, in upheaval, have turned to a tizzy,
never completing, because we're too busy.
All we must do for a tranquil soul
is employ a word, just one, called NO. ~ J. Grant Howard

There are also just as many, if not more, women who are anxious to hold down the status quo. ~ Susie Bright

Everyone wants to be a dyke now; everyone craves our freedom, guts, and knowing looks. ~ Susie Bright

Susie had an intense thought and then an effusion. 'My dear child, we move in a labyrinth.' 'Of course we do. That's just the fun of it!' said Milly with a strange gaiety. Then she added: 'Don't tell me that - in this for instance - there are not abysses. I want abysses. ~ Henry James

... The shocking thing about any stripper gathering, I discovered, was that you have never heard women talk so fast and so explicitly about money in all your life. They make the guys on the trading floor on Wall Street look like a bunch of pansies. ~ Susie Bright

I am lost in my world,
invisible - unknown.
Moon please lend me
your light that someone
will me see me. ~ Susie Clevenger

It's not that sexual liberation or feminist messages are dead. ~ Susie Bright

When shopping at Dunkin' Donuts, pretend you are the mother of nine. Say things like, 'Little David likes cream-filled and Susie wanted jelly.' That way, no one will be suspicious when you order a dozen donuts with one cup of coffee to go. ~ Linda Sunshine

How vain it seems to write, when one knows how to feel
how much more near and dear to sit beside you, talk with you, hear the tones of your voice ... Give me strength, Susie, write me of hope and love, and of hearts that endure ... ~ Emily Dickinson

I now know how your anger
came from skeletons
that rattled in your heart
and you couldn't escape them. ~ Susie Clevenger

I like to work fast. ~ Jerry Orbach

Life goes on in the same manner,
evil wins and peace is slaughtered.
Change the channel, change the view,
tired of the same reruns on the evening news. ~ Susie Clevenger

I'm like the kid in kindergarten; I really do send valentines to everyone. ~ Susie Bright

You're like Jesus," Susie said, more positively now that she had said the words out loud. "He doesn't like it when people be bad either. An' He doesn't like to send them away - out of heaven. But it would spoil heaven for everybody else if He let bad people in there." Wynn said nothing, but his eyes looked misty as he reached out to tousle the little black head on his way to the bedroom for his slippers. ~ Janette Oke

​Life... is full of compromises you never thought you'd make when you were young. ~ Susie Steiner

Here was the real scandal of On Our Backs photography: We were women shooting other women - our names, faces, and bodies on the line - and we all brought our sexual agenda to the lens. Each pictorial was a memoir. That is quite the opposite of a fashion shoot at Vogue or Playboy, where the talent is a prop ...
When we began our magazine, female fashion and portrait models - all of them - were shot the same way kittens and puppies are photographed for holiday calendars: in fetching poses, with no intentions of their own. ~ Susie Bright

It's a lot more fun for actors to cry and rant and rave, or have a drug problem or a drinking problem. ~ Jerry Orbach

Seeing lesbian photography is just the tip of my radicalized clitoris. I have modeled for, commissioned, published, and fought for these pictures, and answered threats against them. I've seen the feminist movement bring these pictures to life, and I've seen that same movement try to suppress the liberating results. ~ Susie Bright

One minute you are loved, and then you are not. ~ Susie Steiner