John Gray Quotes

Life is filled with rhythms-day and night, hot and cold, summer and winter, spring and fall, cloudy and clear. Likewise in a relationship, men and women have their own rhythms and cycles.

Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding.

If you put a bit of butter or sour cream on your potato, the release of sugar into the bloodstream is slowed.

Belief in the liberating power of knowledge has become the ruling illusion of modern humankind. Most want to believe that some kind of explanation or understanding will deliver them from their conflicts. Yet being divided from yourself goes with being self-aware. This is the truth in the Genesis myth: the Fall is not an event at the beginning of history but the intrinsic condition of self-conscious beings.

When men and women are single for a long time, the differences are sometimes not as defined.

Take time off to give to yourself, in a sense to fill yourself up to fullness, to where now you can overflow in giving.

Men go to their caves .. Women talk

The soul is who you are when you strip away the body, mind, and heart. Your soul has a potential that takes an entire lifetime to be fully realized. When a couple are soul mates, when their souls recognize and love each other and they are attracted to each other physically, emotionally, and mentally, then this love not only can last but can continue to grow and become richer as the years pass. This does not mean that everything will flow easily and effortlessly. It simply means you have the potential to be successful.

When a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift.
He makes it safe for her to express herself.
The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.

In science, progress is a fact, in ethics and politics it is a superstition.

Opening the heart results in greater forgiveness and increased motivation to give and receive love and support.

Although feelings of attraction are automatic, in order to sustain attraction in a personal relationship we must also be skillful in presenting ourselves in ways that are not just appealing to the other sex but supportive as well. It is not enough to say, Here I am; take me as I am.

Make a goal to stay confident today. The world believes in you when you fully believe in yourself

Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.

A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results.

Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.

Men need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about problems is not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own.

Always thought of myself as a loving person. But she was right. I had been a fair-weather friend. As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself

There is no mechanism of selection in the history of ideas akin to that of the natural selection of genetic mutations in evolution

As this pain comes up also focus on the love you feel for him/her. Focus on the love. Love feels good, love is expansive. Love is open and accepting. This love you feel is healing the pain of your loss. One day soon your pain will go and only the love will remain.

Where affluence is the rule, the true threat is the loss of desire.(...) What is new is not that prosperity depends on stimulating demand. It is that it cannot continue without inventing new vices.

The success of a relationship is solely dependent on two factors: a man's ability to listen lovingly and respectfully to a woman's feelings, and a woman's ability to share her feelings in a loving and respectful way.

It is not enough to merely be authentic in sharing yourself; to succeed in dating you need to consider how you will be interpreted as well.

Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs.

If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow.

Their (men) sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment.

Those who ignore the destructive potential of new technologies can do so only because they ignore history . Pogroms are as old as Christendom , but without railways, the telegraph and poison gas there could have been no Holocaust. (..) Scientific fundamentalism claim that science is the disinterested pursuit of the truth. But to represent science in this way is to disregard the human needs science serves. Among us science serves two needs: for hope and censorship. Today only science supports the myth of progress. If people cling to the hope of progress, it is not so much from genuine belief as from fear of what may come if they give it up.

Find something that feels good, that resonates with your heart.

The process of learning requires not only hearing and applying but also forgetting and then remembering again.

Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do.

Mental chemistry creates interest, Emotional chemistry Generates Affection, Physical chemistry generates desire, and Spiritual chemistry creates love. A soulmate includes all four...and I will not settle for anything less!

When man and women are able to respect and accept there differences the love has a chance to blossom

Love brings up our unresolved feelings . One day we are feeling loved , and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love .
The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love .

Men, if you're traveling with your wife or girlfriend and she mentions that it's time to start looking for a restaurant, you need to sit up and take notice. This means her blood sugar level has dropped and, for you, it ought to be a red alert with flashing lights and sirens. Get that woman fed!

Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.

when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom

We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways - the ways we react and behave when we love someone.

As precious as knowledge itself is the learning. As precious as any reward is the earning.

After learning , please be realistic.
Give yourself a permission to keep making mistakes.
We must also give ourselves the gift of understanding that we can't remember everything we learned at once

Get the love you deserve and gave your partner the love and support he deserves

Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.

When negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies.

Over the past two hundred years philosophy has shaken off Christian faith. It has not given up Christianity's cardinal error -the belief that humans are radically different from all other animals.

He is stressed by the unsolved problems of his day and finds relief through forgetting them. [...]
She, however, wants to find relief by talking about the problems of her day.

If women become too much like men, men lose purpose, meaning, and inspiration in life.

A woman should not be judged for needing this reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw.

As commonly practiced, philosophy is the attempt to find good reasons for conventional beliefs.

To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.

Too much intimacy, too quickly, can cause women to become needy and men to pull away. Just as men have a tendency to rush into physical intimacy, women make the mistake of rushing into complete emotional intimacy.

Remember, if a man needs to pull away like a rubber band, when he returns he will be back with a lot more love. Then he can listen. This is the best time to initiate conversation.

Histories of morality are rarely written in order to inform the reader.

To receive support we not only have to teach our partners what we need but we also have to be willing to be supported.

Today secular faith is ebbing, and it is the apostles of unbelief who are left stranded on the beach.

Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently.

As commonly practised, philosophy is the attempt to find good reasons for conventional beliefs'
'There is no mechanism of selection in the history of ideas akin to that of the natural selection of genetic mutations in evolution'
'Human knowledge is one thing, human well-being is another.There is no predetermined harmony between the two'
'In the struggle for life, the taste for truth is a luxury-or else a disability

The good life is not found in dreams of progress,but in coping with tragic contingencies.We have been reared on religions and philosophies that deny the experience of tragedy.Can we imagine a life that is not founded on the consolations of action?Or are we too lax and coarse even to dream of living without them?

One of the most difficult challenges in our loving relationships is handling differences and disagreements. Often when couples disagree their discussions can turn into arguments and then without much warning into battles. Suddenly they stop talking in a loving manner and automatically begin hurting each other: blaming, complaining, accusing, demanding, resenting, and doubting.

The number one way a man can succeed in fulfilling a woman's primary love needs is through communication. By learning to listen to a woman's feelings, a man can effectively shower a woman with caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance ...

For people in thrall to 'mortality', the good life means perpetual striving. For Taoists it means living effortlessly, according to our natures. The freest human being is not one who acts on reasons he has chosen for himself, but one who never has to choose. Rather than agonizing about alternatives he responds effortlessly to situations as they arise. He lives not as he chooses but as he must.

Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.

That love motivates you to cooperate, respect, appreciate, cherish, and admire that person.

A glance at any human should be enough to dispel any notion that it is the work of an intelligent being.

A women under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood.

A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.

Venusians have different values. They value love, communication, beauty, and relationships. They spend a lot of time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships. They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating.

Fortunately perfection is not a requirement for creating great relationships.

The closer we are to someone, the easier it is to bruise or be bruised.