Tracy Malone Quotes

I found myself again when I stopped expecting you to be something that you are not.

He was the most charming man I had ever met, held doors open, escorted a lady by staying outside and always having an umbrella. But things changed, he had my son to control and he became jealous and mean. The charming man only came out when people were around. behind closed doors, he was grumpy, demanding, entitled, spoiled, angry & competitive. He is a narcissist.

There is life after narcissistic abuse, Hold On.

Flowers have no fears, be a flower and bloom the way you were intended to.

You can't calm a storm, so stop trying. You can calm yourself. Remember storms always pass.

With each challenge you will see things faster, you will learn the lesson faster. You will get back to peace faster.

When you are with a Narcissist, The truth has different meaning for you and them.

It may seem easier to have someone sweep in and take control. Maybe you need to be rescued and here comes the prince on a horse to save the day. If someone starts out controlling this is a person with control issues. You have to take care of yourself. Never let someone control you.

Live life. Do the unexpected, who the hell cares! Just have fun.

Once you are no longer a source of supply a narcissist will discard you cruelly with horrifically unimaginable devastation. This is when they show the 'no empathy' part. They do not care about you and learning that puts victims into a tailspin of confusion and depression.

Domestic violence does not discriminate. Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim – or perpetrator – of domestic violence. It can happen to people who are married, living together or who are dating. It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

In the eyes of a Narcissist, they are perfect and never make mistakes. It's always your fault.

As a people pleaser you need to learn to set boundaries and love people without being their slave. Only please people to the level they please you.

In public narcissists are charming, kind and caring. This confuses the victim because you believe that role too. When the mask falls the victim is shocked by the evil they see.

Don't let someone dim your light because it's shining in their eyes.

Everything that comes out of the mouth of a narcissist should be considered a lie.

Learn to follow your own map, enjoy being yourself. Forge a life of connected moments.

Triggers are reminders of a place in time. See past the trigger and take back 'this' moment in time. When memories make you sad, don't let them steal the beauty of life. Create a new memory.

Get pissed because you deserve more than this abuse. Emotional abuse is the gateway to all abuse. Get out!

You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no to people.

You hold the crayons to create your life. What will you draw?

Love yourself the way you have loved others. You will be fine.
Your future does not belong to fate it belongs to you. Be happy right where you are.

Narcissists have been planting the seed that you are crazy fro day one.

Heaven calls it spirit, science calls it energy, on the streets we call it vibes, intuition comes to us everyday. Pay attention, it is your best friend.

In the early stages of narcissist abuse you will be angry enough to think crazy things. Be strong. They are not worth your anger. Get help and heal that is the way to peace.

He pretended to be honorable. He told me all the time of his acts of service. His mantra was ' do the right thing. He never did the right thing, he just told everyone he did.

A wolf in sheep's clothing really does exist. There are people that will charm you. Trust with boundaries, determine what you will do if someone does not honor your boundary.

The relationship moved fast, I was swept off my feet. He seemed so perfect, everything I had ever dreamt of. His family lovebombed me and used my son to hook me. From the start the unusual family ways triggered my intuition. My concerns were swept under and distractions filled the cracks.

Recovery takes time to heal the heart, strengthen your confidence and find trust in your self. In the end of your life it will be what you make it, you get to write that chapter.

In order to heal from being a victim of abuse, learn to let go and forgive. Forgiveness will allow you to let go of the anger and pain that holds you to your abuser.

If you hold onto hurt and anger with a narcissist, the children will have no normal parent. The narcissistic parent will use them as puppets, lovebomb and abandon them. You are their only hope.

Go confidently in the direction your dreams call you. Finding your dream takes its time, be ready to switch your course quickly. There is no greater gift you can give this world then to follow your dreams.

Gaslighting is mind control to make victims doubt their reality.

They use charm to attract the people to raise them higher with praise. They are like a spider in a web attracting victims to destroy.

Their mask reflects what you seek and that is what makes it so nice at first. A manufactured mirror of your dreams.

Narcissists are sexual vampires. Just like a vampire needs blood and cares NOT where he gets it. A narcissist thinks he is not being unfaithful because he really didn't commit to you. If it's an act it doesn't count.

It's ok... let them go. It's hard to think they were never meant to be in your life. They conned you and that cost you yesterday. Don't give them a chance to steal tomorrow.

When I was a teenager I thought by having a boyfriend it somehow made me lovable. I did anything for anyone except for me. Don't allow peer pressure to have a boyfriend make you not feel whole without someone else. Find your own greatness and that will attract the right person.

Narcissists provoke a fight, then blame you and then get mad at you when you get angry.

I am a big Disney fan and there is always a dark side of every story. In NarcWorld we have plenty to learn.

Intuition - Once you have had a narcissist in your life, you must develop your intuition and learn to listen to it and act accordingly.

The voice inside you that speaks by standing the hair on your arm up. This voice uses no words, but screams for you to listen.

Victims of abuse, your trust has been violated and corrupted. It will take time to heal this wound, be patient and brave.

As a child of a narcissistic mother I was never told I could do anything right. Disapproval was the "normal" of my life. I was never taught to believe in myself, nor was I guided to better choices. I was alone in figuring out life. Deep inside my self-esteem was uncertain and unsure, on the surface I looked confident because I was told to act that way.

On social media facebombing is common – this means constant attention. Beware if your boyfriend or girlfriend stalks you. That is not a healthy pattern and is abuse. Be strong and walk away, do not take abuse. It never gets better.

Remember 50/50 chance of survival is better than no chance. Use your 50% to teach them boundaries, self love and what abuse is.

Narcissists have no accountability, so watch for them to always blame others.

You will do 90% of everything in the relationship. The 10% they give is only when they want something.

Gaslighting is implanted narratives cloaked in secrecy.

You have danced with the devil. Labels are not important except one, asshole. Chalk up your worst choice ever... Done! Now go live again.

We victims of narcissist abuse are much stronger than we know. We will heal by learning and then by sharing new hope to the next generation of survivors.

They are compulsive liars. A tactic they use is to add a nugget of truth to the lies so make them more believable.

Once they ask you to keep a secret and you do, they have you by the balls. Set boundaries and never keep secrets and lies. Speak up – It's the only way to change your future.

If someone ghosts you once they will continue ghosting you. They ghost for many reasons. To train you, to live different lives, to drive you crazy.

Saving for your future gives security and freedom. Without a little nest egg you will live in fear which causes stress and can make you sick.

Illusions are dangerous because they have no faults. Victims of abuse have illusions that the abuser is a good person, because they told them so.

You will be stronger because you fell and got up. Be patient during the journey, if you rush your healing you will not get the "lesson

Everyone has fears, never judge someone for their fears. Until you have walked in their shoes, you must have compassion.

When you are with a Narcissist, The charm you saw only comes out when they need something.

The devil doesn't come to us with horns and fire. He comes to you disguised as prince charming.

Gaslighting is an attempt to change the truth.

Anger is a byproduct of betrayal. A narcissist betrays our trust, leaving us brain-fucked then we experience anger and guilt. Anger towards them as we question: how could he? Guilt is an inward emotion as victims often question their own behavior. What did I do wrong?

Narcissists do not love, they are soulless manipulating beings. The game they play is use and abuse. The mask they wear is deceiving because they pretend to be everything good in 'us'. The damage they cause hurts, yes. The lesson will save you if you let it.

I have had showers of lemons in my life and thankfully I love lemonade.

Why do you need validation? Will it serve you to see proof? Let me tell you it hurts more if you do. Here is where you must set boundaries. Cheating is a one strike rule because for every one strike you catch them on you missed three.

When confronted by a narcissist's lies - do not engage simply say 'that is one way to look at it' and walk away.

Intuition, when shit just doesn't add up and you are confused about it, that is your intuition pointing out for you to look and listen something is wrong.

If I knew back then what I know today, my life would have been different. No people pleasing, no forgetting my little me, no abuse, no fear or sadness. I cannot go back. I can however change tomorrow by letting go of the crap and just making the choice to be happy. That is the secret... just be happy! Don't waste another minute.

A boundary is your souls wish for you to take care of yourself.

Don't be fooled again! Pay attention, someone's effort is a reflection of someone's interest in you. This above all should be the gauge of your effort! Stop giving more than you get!

Do not seek your worth in someone else. Your worth is inside you, realize this and then find a partner worthy of you. Never stay if they do not know your worth.

We will never be the same after a narc. We will be stronger, smarter, careful, boundary bad ass loving people. That will never stand for less than we deserve again.

Please put on your narc-glasses. Think, Think... Were there signs you missed. Narcissists leave trails, they think you are stupid because you are controlled by love & trust. You missed the sign then, find it now and start controlling your own future.

Family doesn't mean they are like the Waltons. No contact is for you and it makes you stronger then you know. The hardest thing for an empath is walking away from family, we always hoped for the best.

To forgive or not forgive, that is the question. Victims of abuse have been hurt in so many ways it makes it hard to forgive. Holding the injury bonds us to the abuser, forgiving makes you stronger and sets you free of that hurt.

Everything life gives me I can handle with confidence, grace and ease. I have the courage to accept myself, fully and completely.

Dear kids, the secret of life is to learn who the good people are, and stay away from the assholes.

The lies, the double or triple life. The abuse is sometimes slow and steals your soul, other times a punch in the head will keep you in line.

I believe in karma, I know you will never really be happy and that makes me very happy. It's time for you to call your stalking monkeys in from the barn before I drop a house on you! Be Gone!

In order to be fearless, just "fear" less.

As a tree drops its leaves, the tree never cries or worries what will happen to me now? Will anyone love me? It just takes a nap and gets ready for spring, trees are resilient! But so are we.

Looking for someone to tell me how great I am, do everything for me and don't dare want anything from me. Skills... Fooled easily, kind, loving, smart with low self love. Willing to keep quiet while I abuse you. People with boundaries need not apply. Call Narcissist 555-123-4567.

Behind closed doors Narcissists are different people.

To forgive or not forgive after abuse is the question. Victim of abuse have been hurt in so many ways it makes it hard to forgive. Holding the injury bonds us to the abuser, forgiving makes you stronger and sets you free from that hurt.

Narcissists play a public game and a private game which makes it harder to understand. Expressing your concerns suddenly turns you into the 'jealous one' and they make you doubt yourself. He/she becomes cold and uncaring almost overnight, this is when the "mask falls" and you see the real person. They make excuses and if we don't except these excuses then you are the 'crazy' one. They are managing down your expectations from constant contact to crickets this verbally and emotional abuse hurts.

In order to move on we must take a step in a new direction and let yesterday be yesterday.