Mental Abuse Quotes

Life is meant to be enjoyed, not trying to dissect your self-worth to others or even yourself."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

When you forgive, you immerse yourself in healing waters. ~ Stephen Richards

Life is giving you another chance to plant your seeds. Take care of them by watering them, nurturing them throughout all seasons, and watch your flowers bloom."

~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I have been broken down many times before - and I am always the one who is left to pick up the pieces. Most of the time, there are too many pieces to pick up, so I leave them where they lay and never look back. I have to be honest with myself, that is one of my mistakes, instead of walking away, I should have picked up the pieces. That way, I would have learned and grown from what was left behind."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

The moment we see beyond our personal desires to be felt sympathy for, that is the time we can actually start the journey to that final destination of true forgiveness. ~ Stephen Richards

You are not, though, forgiving so as to let others off with things. You are forgiving so that you can empower yourself to get over it and become strong. ~ Stephen Richards

My heart has been bruised, and the scars will never heal because they will always be visible. Maybe they need to be visible as a reminder that I cannot go back."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

You are the custodian of your own happiness. What other people say, do or think does not create a basis for your happiness. It is you who decides your own happiness, just like forgiveness. ~ Stephen Richards

Sometimes we are very convinced that what we went through needs to be re-lived so we end up going back and forth to the demons of the past and eventually we fail to get over them. ~ Stephen Richards

If there ever was someone who had a control over you, someone who could cause you the greatest pain, someone who could ignore your most necessary requirements and someone for whom forgiveness were truly difficult to render, that person is none other than YOU. ~ Stephen Richards

People see my body, but my soul is lost, and I do not have anything left to give."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

By understanding the basic impediments to forgiveness, the repercussions of failing to forgive and the fruits of forgiveness, this will lead you gently to the shoreline of a distinct new and more powerful YOU. ~ Stephen Richards

Your forgiveness or failure to forgive simply takes you nearer or further away from your ultimate goal. There are no two ways to deal with it, there is only one. ~ Stephen Richards

Our soul ties were beyond toxic."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

You tried to play on my weakness, but you were the weakest link."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

You pulled through like a falling star that has risen and now owns its spot."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I have to do better. I have to own up to the choices I made in life."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Life is short, but I never thought my life would end this way. I have myself to blame for that. I saw all of the red flags, but I ignored them one at a time. Every time I ignored them, I was buying more time, I received more time, and I gambled with the time that I was given. It shows you that buying time is temporary because sooner or later time runs out."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

All the stuff you were saying went in one ear and out the other, and I always found myself back in your arm."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

The most basic method one can use to let go of the past is by looking at it as a learning experience. ~ Stephen Richards

The Truth was staring me in the face, but I let you easily persuade me with lies on top of lies. You made a fool of me over and over again and I allowed you to control my thoughts…you never cared. You didn't give a shit. I was blind to the truth…and what was so crazy is that the truth and the red flags were waving me down, but I thought I could change you. However, the only person it changed was me."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

You only said you loved me to hold on to me. All I did was fight with you day in and out. I wasn't ever your enemy. You were your own worst enemy, you just happened to keep me in your shadow."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Loving you had a lot of consequences that I never dodged."
"~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

The idea of always wanting to be the victim in circumstances where you have been offended is a common human trait. Each person wants to be viewed as the aggrieved party. ~ Stephen Richards

I do know is at the beginning and end of the day, I know I paid my dues."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

My thoughts are haunting me because the truth has set me free."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I yearned for love from a person who didn't have it to give. I yearned for love from a person who was never loved, so why in the hell did I think she could give me what she never had?"
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

One of the things you never really see in a romance book is a woman who has self-esteem issues. I mean, I'm sure they're out there, but they're few and far between. Like they can have eating disorders, post-traumatic stress from sexual assault or mental abuse. They can be sold into sex trafficking and they can carry epic amounts of grief. We have female characters who have suffered every loss imaginable and ones who are scarred physically and mentality, but where in the hell are the average women? Ones who look in the mirror and cringe a little? Like, why are all those others acceptable to women, but reading or knowing another woman who has a low self-esteem is, like, worse than all that drama llama? ~ J. Lynn

I let another human being dictate and control my life. I was used for amusement, and the joke was on me."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Pain can cause us to learn no end of lessons, but without resolution there can be no healing! ~ Stephen Richards

In the process of forgiveness, you can only control your own actions and decisions. ~ Stephen Richards

Jail has become the biggest mental health hospital. ~ Steven Magee

Mentally, my heart is swollen, I manage to smile on the inside."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Forgiveness does carry with it numerous obstacles and one may well be surprised why many people find it a very difficult hurdle to jump over. ~ Stephen Richards

One way you can trace your way back to real and true happiness and joy is through forgiveness. ~ Stephen Richards

The pain you feel is simply because you do not yet have the strength to forgive. But you will grow strong again, that is for sure. ~ Stephen Richards

The same zeal and guts with which you were persistent not to forgive is the same zeal and enthusiasm with which you should be able to open up a new relationship with your partner, loved one or friend, one that is founded on commitment and dedication. ~ Stephen Richards

It is not my shit, nor is it my problem. I am free and loving it! In that order!"
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

The central attitudes driving Mr. Right are:
You should be in awe of my intelligence and should look up to me intellectually. I know better than you do, even about what's good for you.
Your opinions aren't worth listening to carefully or taking seriously.
The fact that you sometimes disagree with me shows how sloppy your thinking is.
If you would just accept that I know what's right, our relationship would go much better. Your own life would go better, too.
When you disagree with me about something, no matter how respectfully or meekly, that's mistreatment of me.
If I put you down for long enough, some day you'll see. ~ Lundy Bancroft

Do not allow yourself to be pulled into the role of embracing victimship as some sort of badge of honor to wear or flash around at any opportunity. ~ Stephen Richards

The heart is where the journey of forgiveness begins. ~ Stephen Richards

Overly playing the role of the victim can debar you from accepting responsibility for your actions and emotions. ~ Stephen Richards

The minute we put aside our self-righteousness and move away from being the aggrieved, then we are on a healing process. ~ Stephen Richards

Do the forgiveness and carry on going forward. Leave the worrying to the other person. Eat what is on your plate and leave the rest to them. ~ Stephen Richards

Distancing yourself from some painful event is probably the ignition for the process of forgiveness. ~ Stephen Richards

The truth is, forgiving is a rather simple concept to grasp. It is often imagined that when you forgive, you have to reconcile with someone and yet this is a larger team in which forgiveness is just a player. ~ Stephen Richards

To a narrative therapist, there are few interactions between couples that are not influenced by patriarchy. If there is an abuse of power in a relationship, a narrative therapist would view the responsibility for the abuse of power as lying in the hands of the person abusing the power. A narrative approach would invite the abuser to Recognize the abuse as abuse. Position himself against it. Accept total responsibility for stopping it. ~ Patricia Evans

The purpose of forgiveness is not to make sure that someone ends up changing into what you expect them to be, as this is dominance. The purpose is actually to make your own life better, more worthy and less stressful. Forgiveness reduces the hold that the wrongdoer has over you and empowers you. ~ Stephen Richards

When you forgive, it does not mean that you have submitted, it simply means that you have made a choice to stop bearing any grudge. ~ Stephen Richards

The most painful experience is to endure mental abuse and not being able to do anything about it. ~ Angela Brown

Gaslighting is an attempt to change the truth. ~ Tracy Malone

A broken and mended relationship turns out to be stronger than one that has never been broken, almost like how bones can become even stronger once broken and then healed. ~ Stephen Richards

We invent what we need to get us by, but in doing so we are really continuing to hold on to the pain of yesterday. ~ Stephen Richards

After you walked into my life, I was living and walking in fear every single day. You hypnotized me, and once upon a time, you were my favorite sin. I was exposed to evil in the worst way ever, but I know whether I survive in this coma or not, I have released any blocks, roots, soul ties, and attachments that once held me down."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I can overcome my illness of attachment."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Locking ourselves in the situation where we wish for sympathy and want to be looked at as the aggrieved party normally makes us powerless. ~ Stephen Richards

In an unforgiving world, chaos rules. ~ Stephen Richards

The central attitudes driving the Terrorist are:
You have no right to defy me or leave me. Your life is in my hands.
Women are evil and have to be kept terrorized to prevent that evil from coming forth.
I would rather die than accept your right to independence.
The children are one of the best tools I can use to make you fearful.
Seeing you terrified is exciting and satisfying. ~ Lundy Bancroft

Blaming other people inevitably makes us blame ourselves because if we are pointing the finger at someone, practically, we are pointing it at ourselves as well. ~ Stephen Richards

All the lonely tears I cried were my choice."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Gaslighting is mind control to make victims doubt their reality. ~ Tracy Malone

Love is surrounding you, just like the sunbeam on the flowers that gives them the energy to grow."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Narcissists are very retaliative if they believe another has achieved what they desire,
exposed their insecurities, or refused to be under their control. ~ Lorraine Nilon

I knew you were bad for me, and I still couldn't let you go. I suffered because I kept going back. Every day, when I laid in your bed, I was her prey. I was used and abused. I was once a person with high self-esteem. The first day we crossed paths, I got caught in your web, and I didn't even try to break free. You didn't let me come up for air, because you kept drowning me with your lies and abuse one after another. You were a thorn in my side that caused me to bleed to death, but I never had the strength to take it out."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

You thought I was weak because you tore me apart with your words. The sad thing is, you thought you were in control, but you never were... no, you never were, because you were never in control of yourself."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I think about all of the times I've knocked on death's door. The flashbacks give me the strength to want to fight, but they always make me realize I was given chance after chance to change my life. I guess I thought I was untouchable, and life would continue to toss a coin - when I tossed a coin in the air, I always use to say heads, and there it was - I won. Therefore, I always gambled with my life, and now I do not have room to gamble anymore, because I am here. Life is kicking my ass because the only thing I can do is think of the past and think about the what-ifs."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I didn't know what you wanted from me, at times I wish I was enough but I don't give a fuck anymore. You had a fucking time bomb in your head, that always exploded on me. I couldn't keep up with you. You lead me on and on, all you did was have me run in a circle."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

When I ask you who you are, you'd better say my fucking name. ~ Alicen Grey

As human beings, we are custom made to be happy. Why then would we want to change the order of things by not being happy? ~ Stephen Richards

I never loved me first, and that was one of my many mistakes."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Gaslighting is implanted narratives cloaked in secrecy. ~ Tracy Malone

I had a lot of tire marks on my heart and mind, but I used those marks and scars to survive."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

My stories are of gas chambers, shootings, electrified fences, torture, scorching sun, mental abuse, and constant threat of death. But they are also stories of faith, hope, triumph, and love. They are stories of perseverance, loyalty, courage in the face of overwhelming odds, and of never giving up! ~ Livia Bitton-Jackson

The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to selfishness. Verbal explosions when he is irritated or when he doesn't get his way. Her grievances constantly turned around on her, so that everything is her own fault. His growing attitude that he knows what is good for her better than she does. And, in many relationships, a mounting sense of fear or intimidation. But the woman also sees that her partner is a human being who can be caring and affectionate at times, and she loves him. She wants to figure out why he gets so upset, so that she can help him break his pattern of ups and downs. She gets drawn into the complexities of his inner world, trying to uncover clues, moving pieces around in an attempt to solve an elaborate puzzle. ~ Lundy Bancroft

When people bury you in the sand, what they fail to realize is that the tides come in slowly but surely. When the tides come in slowly, start wiggling your way out, so by the time the huge tides arrive, you are already out and dusting the sand off. They never take the time to look back to see how you do it, they just think you drown. When they wonder why and how you made it, it's because they made you stronger. They also don't realize - there's always a solution to a problem."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Everyone secretly wants to be owned. ~ Alicen Grey

When some people hurt you, they do it on purpose and keep it moving. It is up to us to let that shit go...if we don't, we will always and forever be walking down a dark, gloomy road filled with anger and hate in our heart as it takes over our soul and way of life. It isn't worth it."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Offer yourself forgiveness as a gift. The word 'give' is the basic keyword in the word forgiveness, therefore it relays a meaning therein. ~ Stephen Richards

One thing I notice, a person can change everything about themselves, but one thing they cannot change is their character. They can hide in the shadows, but sooner or later, the shadows will eventually fade away."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

You know, we walk around and only notice the outside of things, but we never take the time to look on the inside."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

At the beginning of the day, it is all about the choices I make. It is about what I am willing to sacrifice - one thing I do know, I am not willing, and I do not want to sacrifice my life for anyone."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

If we studied the issue of forgiveness with a wider perspective, we are bound to opt for it after all. ~ Stephen Richards

Ashamed to avow my sins,
A burden mine alone to bear,
Broken beyond repair,
Baptized in gold to fill the cracks,
Restless nights, Velour gowns turning to sacks
No amount of gold brings relief,
Debased by lies and deceit,
Beg for forgiveness,
And you shall be forgiven,
He, who knows all, saw underneath my veneer,
A pain, a woe played for deaf ears,
I beseech my lord to forgive my misdeeds abhorred,
Let my midnight scribble turn into beautiful word. ~ Khadidja Megaache

Just because someone wakes up one morning and says, "Today I am going to be rich," does not automatically make them rich. So the same is true with forgiveness, it has to come from the heart with meaning, that is when it works best. ~ Stephen Richards

Failing to forgive yourself for certain wrongs you committed in the past can create self-dislike. ~ Stephen Richards

Your words manipulated me, and I fell for it every single time. Your eyes and words were like a snake. I was hypnotized by your lies. You squeezed me to the point that I suffocated, died mentally, came back to life, and was under your spell. Loving you was cruel, but the craziest thing about it all was that my dumb ass somehow felt safe."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I am willing to take ownership of my past decisions."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

When a person says they are tired, they have more to give. When a person is done, there is no turning or looking back. There's no such thing as looking over your shoulder. Bury it, leave it be, and let it rot."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

Just because you have been through a bad experience does not give you the ticket to keep going back to that situation over and over again and dramatizing it out of proportion. ~ Stephen Richards

I conclude, at the beginning of the day, it is all about the choices I make. It is about what I am willing to sacrifice - one thing I do know, I am not willing, and I do not want to sacrifice my life for anyone, not even for you."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I wasted my life on a hopeless and helpless soul who would never be willing to change - nor would she/he feel remorse or see her/his errors."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

The only thing that will make us remain glued to being the victim is our failure to handle the emotions that we go through and the pain that overcomes us. ~ Stephen Richards

Mentally, I am in prison. The only thing I am allowed to do is think...think...think...of the 'what if's' and the consequences I have to endure."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

How can I respect a person who neglected me on purpose? To earn respect, you have to give it."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

I was dying on the inside because I willingly gave you my soul. I was crying nearly every day on the outside because I trusted you..."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

The practice of forgiving is a sequential practice that begins with excusing someone. ~ Stephen Richards

Many struggles lay within my soul. I had many battles in my head, and when I tell you I had to work on myself...it wasn't easy."
~Love is respect ♥~ ~ Charlena E. Jackson

You can learn to heal yourself, learn to understand that the pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow! ~ Stephen Richards

Due to the need to co-exist with these inhuman and inconsiderate people, we will obviously be disturbed by their acts; something which if we look at closely actually means that we too could be affecting some other people negatively every once in a while. ~ Stephen Richards

Being joyous or happy is not something you should feel guilty about. ~ Stephen Richards