Tracy McMillan Quotes

The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them.

For every year past the age of 27, you need to take another step toward commitment somewhere in your life. Instead of freelancing, you get a staff job. Instead of renting, you buy. Fine, instead of couch-surfing, you rent.

Somehow, married or single, we'd rather anesthetize ourselves with love substitutes than go for the real thing, because let's face it: The real thing is pretty scary.

The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You're just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won't. Once the initial high wears off, you'll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.
Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something
it's about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession
a free-agent penis
and for us, it's the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.

Is our desire for partnership just an evolutionary remainder, a Togetherness Delusion, where millions of women only think they need a relationship to be truly happy? Maybe. But you know what? That's fine with me.

Yes, I have 'failed' at marriage - a lot.

People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being.

Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships.

I think of 'crazy' as what happens when we love the other person more than we love ourselves.

One of the beautiful things about men is that they're very in the moment. That's why they don't want to have an argument about what happened six months ago.

Here's the thing: you're not really ready for love until you have enough self-respect that if you met your exact self, but in a guy, you would totally, completely, absolutely want to be with him.

If I had an office job, I'd probably be doing the exact same thing I'm doing on television: hanging out by the water cooler and talking to co-workers about their relationships.

Though it's safe to say there are a whole lotta American gals who agree with the core ideals of feminism, they are somehow nevertheless watching 'Say Yes to the Dress' by the millions.

Because I was a television writer for many years, I write very conversationally. I put things straight, and with a lot of humor.

If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you.

Women with low self-esteem love bad boys. Women who have work to do love bad boys. Women who love themselves love good men.

Being a dick is when you're so self-centered, you think your ideas are pretty much the only worthy ones, and you secretly believe other people are inferior to you. [ ... ] You'd rather believe other people just can't handle how awesome you are. And you're right. All that awesomeness sucks, actually.

A sure-fire way to know you're crazy is if more than one person has told you you'd be great on a reality show - and you agree with them.

I feel that as long as you're honest, you have the opportunity to grow. It's when you shut down, go into denial, and try to start hiding things from yourself and others, that's when you lock in certain behaviors and attitudes that keep you stuck.

We have this false idea in our culture that if you haven't made it by 30, then you're never going to do anything interesting. My 40s have been the most incredible time of my life.

Lots of people feel more alive when they're riding a roller-coaster relationship. But while this might be fun for a while, it can't possibly last.

Sometime between when the Summer of Love ended and the Summer of Sam began, America became a nation of cynics about love.

When relationships don't work out, it doesn't mean you're a bad person, it just means you weren't meant to be together.

I talk to women for a living. It's pretty much what I do with my day.

You can't trick The Universe - it's like Santa Claus that way.

I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married.

Caring - about people, about things, about life - is an act of maturity.

The thing is, relationships never work out ... until they do. You learn a lot from relationships that don't work out.

Being all about me is not a good thing - I don't care what 1978 tried to say - because as long as you mostly think about yourself, you're not going to be a wonderful person. You're just not.