Paul Pearsall Quotes

Lasting love is more a matter of learning to look outward at the world together than looking longingly eye-to-eye. Love Conditionally. Healthy, lasting love is conditional, not unconditional. No one, including you, is love-worthy if she or he does not behave lovingly. Love is something you earn, not something you deserve. Worry more about being love-worthy than about your own self-worth.

The five principles of aloha, when practiced together, awaken our awareness of our human potential and the sacredness of our life.

You can resent your bald spot or be glad you have a head.

The objective of two lovers is almost always the same; to find meaning in their individual lives and in their life together.

Work addiction seems to be an addiction we are proud of. We almost seem to brag with mock displeasure that we are "overwhelmed" with busyness, sometimes as an excuse for not really being able to do what we really want to be doing. Work addiction is a symptom not of working your brains out but of your brain working you out. Why are you doing what you're doing for a career and how do you like doing it? Do you like your answer?

The word 'silly' derives from the Greek 'selig' meaning 'blessed.' There is something sacred in being able to be silly.

Most of the problems we think we have stem from too much self-focus rather than too little.

Our most basic instinct is not for survival but for family. Most of us would give our own life for the survival of a family member, yet we lead our daily life too often as if we take our family for granted.

Shut up and listen. Research shows that people who interrupt are three times more likely to die of a heart attack than those who don't and that marital relationships usually fail because of too much communication, not too little. Couples who spend a lot of time being quiet together stay together.

Addiction is not a fact of life but a description about how we are choosing to live.

We come to feel as we behave.

I began to fear that constant hoping might cause me to sacrifice today for the illusion of a better tomorrow. - The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need

Sharing laughter is a way of casting delight to the wind so it blows everywhere and to everyone.

Don't Read Weight-Loss Books: Eat Them. They're a better source of fiber than information on permanent weight loss. If you eat them, they'll stay with you longer and be generally better for your bowels than the plans they offer. Ditch Your Diet. Research shows that no diet works for long, and constantly trying and failing at dieting is depressing, unhealthy, and ends up making you even fatter. Use the SWELMM system of Stop Worrying, Eat Less, Move More.

What really drives us to seek help is an equally frightening sensation: that of being alive, yet not really living.

It is the mark of an educated man to be able to evaluate a thought without accepting it. ARISTOTLE

The mind-closing danger of biased beliefs occurs when we don't know we hold them. Sometimes we have to swallow our pride and engage in clear-eyed analysis.