Jeanne McElvaney Quotes

The moment you believe your experience is caused by other people, you are giving them your power.

With the help of your therapist or healing ally, you can identify who makes you feel uneasy, concerned, scared, or defensive.

: Their acts violated our trust. : The secrecy told us we were alone. : The shame swirling through our experience convinced us we didn't deserve the best for ourselves. : Our circumstances twisted our beliefs about what to expect out of life. : Surviving our unpredictable, disempowering childhood left little opportunity to explore our talents or creativity. It's been said, living through childhood sexual abuse is like living in a war zone. Each of us survived by doing the best we could. Now we have the opportunity to celebrate the child we were and all we did to reach this place in life when healing is possible. Now we get to update our information. And this will bring encouraging, empowering, joy-filled changes into our lives. Each time you go back into a memory, you have the opportunity to 'see' what you learned in that moment of trauma. When I was six-years old, playing with my doll with abandon that blocked out all other noise, I found

When a string of disconnected events weave together, I know my spirit is talking to me.

Each survivor chooses how secrecy is going to fit into their healing. Some share with their immediate family, but not their childhood family and friends.

I think most survivors transfer the shame of their experience into their present-day healing and become ashamed of themselves for needing the time and support

These memories are lost to our conscious and cannot be remembered like an ordinary memory. Sometimes they come to us as flashbacks.

We learned to turn inward to a place where we were able to re-define what was happening to us. In this mental space, we were able to color our experience with childhood reasoning or bury it deeply

Our authentic power is found in our truth. This is the place that shows us how to give what is so very good about ourselves.

Uncertainty is an ally of change. It opens doors to new possibilities. It invites new insights.

Energetically, when we fight something, it intensifies our connection. We activate the energy by placing our focus on it.

You body~mind~spirit will never let you got any place you're not ready to experience.

Practice seeing possibilities. When you focus on what you already know, you keep creating the same reality.

I believe forgiving supports us most profoundly when it comes toward the end of our journey, when we intimately know what we are forgiving ~

It takes one kind of courage to seek life-shifting insights. A very different kind of bravery has to be summoned to weave a tapestry of change.

Serendipity will take you beyond the currents of what is familiar. Invite it. Watch for it. Allow it.

You invite a time in the near future when you are no longer building your life on the unknown influences of your childhood sexual abuse.