Mandy Hale Quotes

You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them ... but still move on without them. ~ Mandy Hale

To live, to TRULY live, we must be willing to RISK. To be nothing in order to find everything. To leap before we look. ~ Mandy Hale

When you are your own best friend, you don't endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own. ~ Mandy Hale

It's better to be a "misfit" than a "one-size-fits-all"! ~ Mandy Hale

It makes no sense to try to extend a friendship for a lifetime if it was only meant to last a season. ~ Mandy Hale

It's okay to hurt. It's okay to cry. It's okay to ask questions (even of God.) It's okay to yell and scream and feel and even cuss if you need to. It's okay to be right where you're at, without trying to frantically search for the purpose that will come from your pain or the message that will come from your mess. I'm finding that some pain doesn't serve a purpose. Sometimes pain is just pain…and we can let it be just that. We can feel it without trying to heal it. We can bring our fists down hard on all the feel-good, sing-song, empty platitudes and send the pieces scattering right along with the shattered pieces of our hearts. WE CAN. ~ Mandy Hale

You are here for a reason. There is nothing accidental about you. There is a specific purpose, assignment, and mission on earth that only you can fulfill. Never doubt your specialness. ~ Mandy Hale

Don't wait until you're faced with someone's absence to acknowledge the importance of their presence. Love them now. Realize that the flaws, irritations, bad habits, and imperfections are all a part of what makes them, and you, unique, special, and rare to this universe. ~ Mandy Hale

You will never gain anyone's approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows. ~ Mandy Hale

Here's a little nugget I've learned in life about the secret to being a good friend: when words won't suffice, lend an ear. When you can't march into a courtroom or a conference room or a classroom and lay the smack down, lend your shoulder to cry on. When you don't have money for expensive presents, offer your simple presence. And when you don't know what else to do for someone, pray for him or her. It does matter. It is enough. It will be remembered for years to come. ~ Mandy Hale

Sometimes it takes getting pushed to the very edge before you can find your voice and courage to speak out again. Sometimes it takes hitting that rock bottom to realize you're done descending, and it's time to rise. Sometimes it takes being told you're nothing - being made to feel like you're nothing - to help you see that you are complete.

YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. ~ Mandy Hale

Being brave enough to be alone frees you up to invite people into your life because you want them and not because you need them. ~ Mandy Hale

What we are waiting for is not as important as what happens to us while we are waiting. Trust the process. ~ Mandy Hale

Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness. ~ Mandy Hale

Learn to appreciate loneliness for the gift that it truly is - a chance for God to finally get you alone so He can go to work on building a relationship with
you. ~ Mandy Hale

When life brings you full circle, pay attention. There's a lesson there. ~ Mandy Hale

Too easy to get = Just as easy to forget. ~ Mandy Hale

YOU ARE SOMETHING BETTER. ~ Mandy Hale

Pick your battles. You don't have to show up to every arguement you're invited to. ~ Mandy Hale

We were not put here on this earth to barely squeak by and settle for a lukewarm, watered-down version of life, or to live in fear of what other people will think. Our lives can't rise any higher than our standards. Rise above settling in life or in love. And next time someone tells you your standards are too high, don't apologize. Tell them, "Thank you." The standards you set determine the life you get. And those who know their worth don't even entertain the lesser things. They hold out for the best things. ~ Mandy Hale

And I would find myself again. Not the same version of me that I was looking for, but a stronger version. A wiser version. A woman who knew that she was enough, just as she was. A woman who had been tried in the fire but instead of being burned by it, came out gold.

A woman who finally, after doubting and questioning and striving and hustling for her worth for years…finally, finally came to the realization that she was and is and has always been…

ENOUGH. ~ Mandy Hale

Trust the wait. Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible ~ Mandy Hale

The WHY of letting it go is quite simple: You have to let go of what is NOT meant for you in order to receive what IS. So now I ask you: What are YOU willing to let go of today, ~ Mandy Hale

Sometimes "no" is the most loving, gentle answer God can give. ~ Mandy Hale

She has to have four arms, four legs, four eyes, two hearts, and double the love. There is nothing "single" about a single mom. ~ Mandy Hale

Love is a beautiful, wonderful, and even sacred thing, but until it arrives, shouldn't we give ourselves permission to thrive? ~ Mandy Hale

An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken! ~ Mandy Hale

You don't think your way into finding out who you are; you live your way into it. You make mistakes. You follow your passion. You take wrong turns. You set goals and chase dreams. You figure out what makes you laugh, and you do more of it. You learn what makes you cry, and you do less of it. ~ Mandy Hale

There is nothing that can happen TO you that can't also happen FOR you ... if you'll let it. ~ Mandy Hale

The only keeper of your happiness is you. Stop giving people the power to control your smile, your worth and your attitude. ~ Mandy Hale

Single ladies, we are not Damsels in Distress ... we are Divas that Impress! ~ Mandy Hale

Loneliness is designed to help you discover who you are ... and to stop looking outside yourself for your worth. ~ Mandy Hale

The trick to not getting mired in the past and missing out on the future lies solely in our ability to let go and move on, yet this seems to be the most difficult thing in the world for most people (including myself) to do. ~ Mandy Hale

When we overthink, we stop acting boldly and hide behind our endless streams of questions, objections, and insecurities. We drive away people and opportunities that are meant to be in our lives by overwhelming them with our expectations, stipulations, and worries. We shut off our hearts and allow our minds to work overtime, essentially turning ourselves into hamsters in wheels - endlessly grinding but going nowhere. ~ Mandy Hale

If they want to be in your life, they'll find a way to be in your life. Otherwise they'll find excuses. ~ Mandy Hale

If you surrender your self-worth to someone who doesn't see your true value, what happens when someone comes along who wants to give you what you're worth instead of what you'll settle for?

The bottom line is this: You've got to know your worth, at yard sales and in life, because a lot of people who are going to try to talk you out of it. If they can't see your value, let 'em keep on movin'! Someone out there is looking for exactly what you've got and will never try and undercut your value or question your worth. Some things in life just can't be bartered over or placed on the sale rack, and your self-worth is at the top of the list. ~ Mandy Hale

Stand strong in your worth and don't let anyone talk you out of it. ~ Mandy Hale

True strength is knowing that you don't have to be strong every single second of the day. ~ Mandy Hale

Never stop trying. Never stop believing. Never give up. Your day will come. ~ Mandy Hale

When something or someone is no longer bringing you up, but pulling you down - it's time to let go. When something or someone is no longer adding to your life, but subtracting from it - it's time to let go. ~ Mandy Hale

The things we don't stress tend to turn out best. Trust and let go. ~ Mandy Hale

The really amazing, beautiful, and miraculous thing about walking with God, however, is that even when you stray, He manages to find you. He uses the ugly, dirty things you do while running from Him to draw you back to Himself. ~ Mandy Hale

You are FAR too fabulous to cling to someone or something that doesn't fit you, doesn't want you, or doesn't belong to you. While you're clinging to the WRONG thing, you're letting the RIGHT thing slip right through your fingers! ~ Mandy Hale

When you live in shackles to other people's opinions and moods and judgments, it is the equivalent of becoming a human streamer. And you're better than that. You're meant to be in the driver's seat of your life, not running alongside the car, trying to catch up! ~ Mandy Hale

The right one for you will move mountains to be with you - he won't hide behind them. ~ Mandy Hale

The next time you check the box "S" for single, remember this: singleness is no longer a lack of options but a choice - a choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status and to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out. Whether or not you have someone in the passenger seat, you are still the driver of your own life and can take whatever road you choose. So the next time you hit a speed bump, otherwise known as the age-old question, "Why are you still single?" look 'em in the eye and say, "Because I'm too strong, too smart, and too fabulous to settle. ~ Mandy Hale

A girl who truly knows herself is a girl that everybody else wants to know. ~ Mandy Hale

You don't always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens. ~ Mandy Hale

Allow yourself to hope, to believe and to trust again. Don't let a few bad memories stop you from having a good life! ~ Mandy Hale

You're beautiful, just the way you are. Shine on. And dare anyone to turn off the lights. ~ Mandy Hale

The solitude, bravery, and uncertain path of the modern-day single woman is something to be applauded as bold and courageous and unique, not lauded as sad or pathetic or weak. As ~ Mandy Hale

Stop inviting people who don't celebrate you to your party! It's YOUR life - you have the right to be exclusive. ~ Mandy Hale

There is never a moment when God is not in control. Relax! He's got you covered. ~ Mandy Hale

Your lives are on two separate tracks and it seems as though there's simply no going back. And as much as you love her and cherish the memories you've shared together, you know in your heart that the friendship has run its course. ~ Mandy Hale

If a man WANTS to be with you, he will make his actions clear. There won't be any questions, murkiness, cloudiness, or fear. ~ Mandy Hale

Strong women don't play victim, don't make themselves look pitiful, & don't point fingers. They stand & they deal. ~ Mandy Hale

There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others. ~ Mandy Hale

Happiness begins with you. Not with your relationship, your friends, or your job. but with you. ~ Mandy Hale

Here's a little secret that's going to save you a LOT of unnecessary grief in life. Are you ready? Your worth is not tied to any person. ~ Mandy Hale

When you stop blooming where you've been planted, it's time to put down new roots. ~ Mandy Hale

What now seems wrong, unfair, and ridiculous will all make sense later. ~ Mandy Hale

God already has someone picked out for you, and you don't have to frantically search for him. When it's right, God will cross your paths. ~ Mandy Hale

As it turns out, it was that very rock bottom that became the most firm foundation I had ever planted my feet on. A foundation so solid, it finally provided the springboard I needed to outrun that teasing, taunting shadow of unworthiness that had followed me my entire life. ~ Mandy Hale

My point is this: When you live in shackles to other people's opinions and moods and judgments, it is the equivalent of becoming a human streamer. ~ Mandy Hale

Change starts with YOU. When you step up, you invite others to step up, too. ~ Mandy Hale

Timing is everything. What good is finding the RIGHT thing if it's the WRONG time? ~ Mandy Hale

Mean girls go far in high school. Kind women go far in LIFE. ~ Mandy Hale

Sometimes you have to realize that you've HAD enough to realize that you ARE enough. ~ Mandy Hale

No matter how sexy or appealing or flashy or tall, dark, and handsome the object of your desire may be ... no matter how AMAZING the job opportunity may seem ... no matter the size of your impossible dream..if it is NOT meant for you, it is time to let it go and move on to what IS. Just as Rose let go of Jack, so she could bloom instead of meet her doom.
"But MY Leonardo diCaprio WANTS to be held," you might argue.
No, he doesn't. (If he did, you wouldn't be reading this book.)
THE SINGLE WOMAN SAYS: You don't have to cling to what is truly meant for you. You can let go. It'll stick around ~ Mandy Hale

Celebrate the people in your life who are there because they love you for no other reason than because you are YOU. ~ Mandy Hale

Happily Single is also the precursor to Happily Taken. You simply can't have one without the other. ~ Mandy Hale

Find yourself first ... like yourself first ... love yourself FIRST ... & friendship & love will naturally find YOU. ~ Mandy Hale

Some steps need to be taken alone. It's the only way to really figure out where you need to go and who you need to be. ~ Mandy Hale

She screws up - a lot. She stumbles and she falls. She gets it wrong as often as she gets it right. But she never gives up the fight. ~ Mandy Hale

Not everything in life has to be about finding "The One." Sometimes a girl just wants to have fun. ~ Mandy Hale

Be a bit of a challenge; not because you're playing games but because you realize you're worth the extra effort. ~ Mandy Hale

You cannot ask someone to like you or love you more than you like or love yourself. YOU have to set the standard. ~ Mandy Hale

Sometimes you have to move on without certain people. If they're meant to be in your life, they'll catch up. ~ Mandy Hale

But if you learn to really sit with that loneliness and embrace it as the gift that it is - an opportunity to get to know yourself, to learn how strong you really are, to depend on no one but yourself for your happiness - you will realize that a little loneliness goes a long way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful you. ~ Mandy Hale

The only thing we single ladies need to be rescued from is the notion that we need to be rescued. ~ Mandy Hale

Here's a glorious thought: You don't have to settle. Ever. In life, in love, in your career ... ANYWHERE! ~ Mandy Hale

Anything in your life that's acting as a security blanket is only smothering the person you were born to be. ~ Mandy Hale

But in the midst of all that uncertainty and lack of clarity, there lies a wild beauty. A hope. Possibility. The promise of something bigger than us happening just beneath the surface that we can't see. ~ Mandy Hale

We have to release our plans to realize God's greater purpose ~ Mandy Hale

You have a destiny and a purpose that no one else on this earth can fulfill ... and you have traveled a unique journey that has equipped you along the way with the tools you need to carry it out. ~ Mandy Hale

You don't have to defend or explain your decisions to anyone. It's your life. Live it without apologies. ~ Mandy Hale

God knows what you're ready for. He knows what your arms are able to carry. He knows what your heart can contain. He knows what's coming, and He knows how and when to prepare you for it. He knows the right time, the right place, the right person, the right answer. He knows, so you don't have to. ~ Mandy Hale

Learn from your failure's; do not prevent misfortune from teaching you. ~ Mandy Hale

Take care of someone else. Be there for someone else. Bless someone else. A happy life is about GIVING more than you TAKE. ~ Mandy Hale

You can't truly heal from a loss until you allow yourself to really FEEL the loss. ~ Mandy Hale

Be vulnerable. Take a chance. Step outside your comfort zone. Try something new and daring and audacious. Maybe it's changing jobs or changing cities or simply changing your hair color. But do something different than what you do every single day. Take a risk. Even if you're not ready to. Because you never know how important and vital the sentence you're writing today is to the bigger story your life is trying to tell. ~ Mandy Hale

You will evolve past ceratin people,let yourself. ~ Mandy Hale

Realize that if a door closed, it's because what was behind it wasn't meant for you. ~ Mandy Hale

The real fairy tale is designing a life that's so amazing that you don't want to be rescued from it ~ Mandy Hale

Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, magical person that your are. ~ Mandy Hale

Even most churches don't really know what to do with their singles. They teach classes on "preparing for marriage," "waiting for marriage," and "praying for marriage," but what about just honoring exactly who you are in this moment instead of always prepping for the next phase of life? ~ Mandy Hale

So you're a little weird? Work it! A little different? OWN it! Better to be a nerd than one of the herd! ~ Mandy Hale

Figure out what makes you laugh, and do more of it. Figure out what makes you cry, and do less of it. ~ Mandy Hale

I'm finally learning to accept myself as I am. Learning to like myself as I am. Learning to like and accept my life as it is. Learning to stop begging people to want me or love me or make me feel like I'm ENOUGH. And learning that it's okay to stand up and say: I've had ENOUGH. I've had enough of hustling for my worth. I've had enough of groveling to people unworthy of me for scraps of love or time or attention. I've had enough of keeping people in my life who diminish me. And I've had enough of trying to be anything other than me...because I, in all my imperfect, messy glory, am perfectly ENOUGH. ~ Mandy Hale

Because sometimes, even when you see someone headed for a collision, all you can do is step out of the way and let it happen, hoping there will be something left to salvage after the wreckage is cleared. ~ Mandy Hale