Paula Heller Garland Quotes

Don't beg a man to keep you. If he isn't sure you are the right one make the decision for yourself. You deserve better than maybe.

The love was so passionate. Neither were happy with anyone else. But when a time came that they were able to be together, too much had been left unsaid. Too much time had passed and too much hurt filled their hearts.

The moment I felt my life return was when I took a breath and said to him, No thank you. Were I as perfect as you are demanding, life would be rather boring.

So often I speak of "out of the box thinking" and living a "conscious life"; however, not regularly do I meet someone who lives such a life. What an inspiration (and challenge) to see someone who really lives in the now, who looks forward and dares to stop when thoughts turn to pain from the past!

As I was standing in my kitchen cooking yesterday, a quiet task that causes my mind to begin reminiscing (similar to washing dishes, cleaning the bathrooms and mowing), I reached for the kitchen scissors and off I went. Kitchen scissors. Who knew there were special scissors to cut food items? Mom did.

I'm amazed how my soul is served the messages I need to be fed at exactly the time I'm in need. When I'm open.

I call my it "the Book of Paula" or BoP for short. Those are my own opinions, based on experience.

I had to ask myself why I'm continuing to engage in behavior I knew hurt. What was my payoff? Did it confirm my belief I was not enough? Did I think I needed to suffer? Did I think I could save him? Why not save myself instead? What a miserable realization that I knew all of this yet failed to take action.

Hurting the person who hurt you won't heal your pain. Let them go. Karma will deal with them you don't have to write the script for the universe.

God put me on earth for a few specific reasons. Being your mom was the most important and I I thank Him everyday for the opportunity and gift.

In order to change it is important to know who you are, what you believe, and how you became that person. Only then can we live more comfortably in the present and cease unconscious reactions that result in undesired outcomes.

Ironically, most of my growth has come through struggle.

And my heart is breaking
My heart is lying on the floor in a pool of tears
I keep asking the same questions only to have them unanswered

Is there anything you have been putting off until another day? How about today?

You must have been the best mother in the world.
Have prayed seventeen times a day ... just for me.
Been the strongest woman on earth.
Had a direct connection to God.
Have been hand-picked to parent a daughter like me.
Know how much I miss you everyday.
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you.
You are woven into every thought, dream and ambition I possess ...
Happy Mother's Day, mom.
I miss you and love you ...

The longer you fight to be right the less time you'll have to be happy.

What would you change about yourself if you could change anything?

In order to grow a relationship each person must be willing to expose their weaknesses, not just their strengths.

None of this interpersonal work will matter if you don't use the things you learn.

The truth, for me, is I do accept everyone.
I believe people are going to be who they are going to be. Moreover, I strongly disagree that it is my place in life to judge who they are. Or to attempt to mold them into whom I believe they should become.

All of the years I spent trying to be someone you could be proud of would have been better spent being proud of myself for who I already was.

Don't forget to pause and nourish yourself a bit along the way. When you're born to help others sometimes you forget to help yourself.

Taking a break from digging into your own issues doesn't make you unauthentic. It makes you sane.

One of the most important lessons I've recently learned? I have to move forward without that apology. Waiting on it has bound me to an anchor that is pulling me under. What would make the other person apologize for hurting me when they're far too selfish to notice they have?

Life became more aligned when I started taking some of the advice I'd been dishing out to my friends.